The so called Law of Attraction is widely popular these days, preaching that you can create the life that you want through changing your attitude and beliefs. Visualization is another feature, as well as affirmations and the like. Followed by action, changes in these areas are said to change your life, sometimes completely.
Although I do not deny that changes in these areas can deeply transform the way you live and bring magical transformation into your life, I am critical of the way that it’s being taught, as I’ve written about in two earlier posts – Love creates reality and I believe in magic but remain skeptical towards the Law of Attraction. Now I’m back to utter some thoughts and critique on the so called first Law of Attraction – “like attracts like”.
Like doesn’t always attract like
The “like attracts like” rule dictates that a certain vibration, for example positivity, will attract more positivity from the outside. While I believe that this is sometimes true, I don’t believe this to always be the case. To make it simple, let’s start with look at the opposite, a negative vibration, like sadness. A natural response to sadness is compassion, which is a positive vibration. Just like a human being, the Universe and your guides, ancestors and other beings as well as creatures are perfectly able and ready to react to for example sadness with compassion and comfort. Maybe even a happy surprise.
Sometimes love provokes a negative response
A person who is for example on a spiritual journey and through that deepens their capacity of loving, might actually trigger others around in their traumas and receive negative responses to their loving vibration. And the Universe or your guides, etc, can react with more difficult challenges as you deepen your spiritual journey. This is then not a punishment, but a challenge to grow.
So even if sometimes the “like attracts like” does apply, sometimes I think that it really doesn’t, and this is important to know when practicing manifestation and magic.
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So tired of so many in the spiritual world being so extremely focused on manifestation and money mindset. I’m all for people living the life that they dream of, but if I hear “your thoughts create your reality” one more time, I’m gonna scream!
The universe can surprise you
Love creates reality, fueled by passion, with thoughts and emotions as sparks. We create reality together, in a mysterious dance with all that already exists. And a thought or emotion that you have gets an answer from the universe and your surroundings, it’s not a copy-paste function. Just like another person can answer with something that surprises you, or respond to a negative emotion with compassion, so can the universe and the collective consciousness!
Of course there’s also a physical component to creation, doing. And of course we are powerful beings, able to influence and inspire creation with just a bit of focus.
Focus on the heart
But life is full of surprises, and it should be. Our focus should lie on love, compassion and freedom first and foremost. Then manifestation can be a dance that you enjoy, together with existence. To focus too much on manifesting what you want might lead to domination games and the like, and why get into that.
Manifest all you like, sure, but focus on the heart and to be a free warrior of love. That’s the true secret to happiness
My experience is that reality is made up of different dimensions and a bit more, and that these all exist in their own way. That everything is an illusion is an experience that one can have from a certain perspective, but that does not make it “the truth”, partly because from several other perspectives it is not like that at all. It can be liberating to experience how material reality and the ego are changeable, even appear like illusions or projections, when viewed from certain “states of mind” in lack of a better expression. And of course they can be experienced completely different than they are from the perspective of, for example, the physical eyes and body.
Nevertheless, there are also perspectives from which the material reality is very real and these provide real experiences, which are important as well as a constant feed into who we are and are becoming, which in itself makes them real.
Don’t kill your ego
The ego is changeable, but incredibly important for living. Thinking that it’s an illusion or that you should “kill it” can be a great evolutionary perspective in short instances, however it can be destructive if kept as a constant belief. Letting the ego be free and adaptable, transformative – at a rate that harmonizes with one’s need for a certain stability or permanence in order to have time to reflect and integrate – is rewarding and a prerequisite for walking the spiritual path in a deeper sense.
Thinking that material reality is an illusion can be an inspiration, but if it becomes a dogma, that you believe it is “the truth”, it can be very destructive and lead to, for example, a difficulty to ground yourself and enjoy the physical aspects of life.
There are many articles on how to strengthen ones traditionally so called feminine energy, and for a good reason. This amazing force, which I call Darkness Divine, has been suppressed for thousands of years in a society focused on titles, achievement and physical manifestation as signs of success. However, I believe that now is a good time to nurture our traditionally so called masculine side in a healthy manner.
It might seem old fashion to talk about these concepts in a time when particularly the young generation are discovering identities and ways of being beyond the restraints of the traditionally masculine and feminine. Yet, it is important to look into ones history and know where you are developing from. And if one looks at them as the forces of healthy darkness and what I call Loving Light, they are very important aspects in any person, no matter their sexual orientation.
So how does one strengthen the force of light, or Loving Light, developing a healthy, traditionally called masculine energy flow of manifestation and shine from within, with that awesome vibration that is your unique expression?
The basics of Yang
Let’s start with looking into the concept of Yang. Yang is masculine, white, light, south, fire (creativity), active, sun (strength and the god Xihe), heaven, warm, young, odd numbers (1,3,5…), mountains, rich or full and hard. It provides form to all thing. It reaches it’s height of influence with the summer solstice. Yang may also be represented by the dragon, the color blue and a solid line trigram in I-Ching (Book of Changes).
So as the Yang is a force of light, it brings out the details of what is within and around you. To pay attention to detail takes focus, preferably on one thing at the time, no matter if that attention moves fast or slow. Considering that this power brings form to all things, it is connected to the ability of bringing ones vision into reality, providing new things to see with ones own eyes, which in turn can inspired anyone to bring the next manifestation into light. This is a heavy responsibility to have on ones shoulders, but also an exiting prospect. That what one does has meaning and gives an effect.
Providing form can also be related to how one expresses themselves. Who you are to the world and how you present yourself to others is very important of course, and a vital part in the process of how others allow you to shine your Loving Light upon them and the surroundings.
My journey into the masculine
So how does one go forward and become a beacon of healthy, Loving Light in the world? Some might think, since I’m a woman, I’m not the best source of information on this matter. On the contrary I think, since I have had to practice a lot to bring out this vibration in me, since it actually still is somewhat suppressed in the education and upbringing of women. I do come from a line of strong women with their own careers and was brought up with fathers (including stepfather) who taught me to be independent and develop my own, so called masculine abilities.
Still, I have been affected by the traditional role of a woman, like so many have. Like said, this meant a lot of practice to develop my capacity of bringing form to my manifestations with my own power, as well as much inner growth to dare to present myself to the world in the way that I want from the bottom of my heart. All of this gave me a better understanding and capability of shining my inner light upon the world in a respectful, some times powerful, sometimes gentle and always creative dance with others. I’m still practicing of course, and below are some of the methods that have and still are helping me on the way.
5 ways to strengthen your masculine energy
Stay focused. Practice by, for example, meditating with your eyes fixed on a point, perhaps a bright point. Let distracting thoughts fall away. Keeping your eyes open enhances your ability to face daily life with the same focus. You can also do this exercise while for example washing the dishes or cleaning the apartment. Stay completely focused on what you are doing, one step at the time and enjoy as well as appreciate each step as much as you can.
Write a story with yourself as the hero/heroine. What challenges do you face? Who/What helps you? What puzzles/quests do you need to solve on the way? What goal will you reach? How does it feel to be a hero/heroine?
Stabilize your energy field. Feel the field just like you can feel the body sometimes. Are there holes or weak points? Are you leaking energy? Fix this with the power of thought and visualization, in conjunction with compassion towards yourself, as well as others that might be involved. For example, if you see a knife in your back, remove it, recycle it and care for the wound with your mind and imagination.
Go out into the woods and find a power scream! It should not rob you of power, but allow power to flow through you. Direct the power with care.
Write down some of your opinions and sit for some time with them, considering different ways of explaining them to others, as well as how to stand up for them, within and without. How can you do this firmly, yet adding gentleness and deep respect towards the opinions others? Is it important to you that people accept them straight away, or can you find it within you to be content with simply letting be said and give people with other opinions the time to reflect? Are you ready to change your way of thinking, without committing violence upon yourself and who you are? Reflect upon these questions often. Manifestation often means collaboration. Make sure that you can participate, but be ready to dominate in a compassionate manner when it is suitable.
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